The human condition mandates that at least once in your life, your heart will be broken. This happens sometimes, if you are lucky, at an early age, with a material object that you weren’t allowed to bring home with you…yes mom, I mean that doll I really wanted back when I was six. Thigh slapping jokes aside, heartbreak is real, and some of us are rather unfortunate to experience the real beating up of our hearts. Whether you are coming from a separation, a break up, a divorce, or a rift in your relationship you deserve to know you are the most important person you need to love, and being kind to yourself during a tough time can ultimately lead to not only your glamorous survival, but also your healing and self fulfillment.
This is a letter composed to YOU: alterations may need to be made to fit your specific situation, but the truth remains the same; you are going to be okay without a partner.
I know that this is going to be difficult for you. You have spent the last portion of time completely dependent on one person. It made life very easy. Although I really love Zeus*, the opportunity to grow and develop as a person in the next few years is vital for you to do. Even in your most lonely of hours, remember that what you are doing has a purpose. You need to mature and live positively in order to reach the level of life you want. You have the ability to be a strong, intelligent, and independent person. You cannot be in a relationship that is this serious if that is your ultimate goal. You are not ready for someone to rely completely on you, nor are you ready to completely rely upon another.
You are okay! You will be Okay. Remember, the grass on this side was not always green, and the grass on the other side was not always green too. However, the lessons you learn from this relationship are important:
Take your time with things
Think twice about your decisions
Your family is very important
Never rely on someone else for financial support
Be honest and open in your relationships
Do not fight with anyone to sabotage something
Open your heart to the world
It is okay to fall in love, but stay true to yourself
Embrace what you believe in
Education is important
Opportunity is everywhere
Don’t forget to keep calm and carry on
It is always blue behind the clouds
Never allow someone to take your power
It is far better to be alone and really look at the world and yourself, than it is to be with someone who is not right
Intensity can be bad
Fight urges to rebel against your ideals
Learn to Love You more than anyone else
Learn to be peaceful Entirely Alone
*Zeus screwed over everyone; I like to think any ex is really just Zeus coming down from Mount Olympus.